The Struggle of Finding a Partner: 5 Tips You Need To Know

March 14, 2022
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When you're single, it's easy to feel like dating is hopeless. There are so many girls and guys out there, so what are the chances of finding a partner? In reality, singles make up at least 50% of the population, and that number is only rising. According to a recent study, 20% of singles between 25-34 have not been on a date in over six months. But don’t despair! It's not time to give up just yet. Here are five tips for how to get back on track in your search for a partner.

The importance of finding a partner

Finding a partner is more important than you might think. Your social life, for example, hinges on having someone to share it with. Meeting people can be difficult if you don't know where to go or who to talk to. And dating? Well, that's no walk in the park either. If you're struggling in your search for a partner, it's time to try something new. Here are five tips that could help you out of your slump.

1. Take care of yourself first

Everyone wants a healthy relationship, but when it comes down to it, they want a healthy individual too. You should work on yourself before trying to find a partner. Make sure you're taking care of your mental and physical health so that you can provide all of those things for someone else later on down the line.

2. Try doing things solo

We all have those friends who always go out with us because we don't want to be alone - but sometimes being alone is good for just that reason! It's important for single people to spend some time by themselves and really figure out what they like and what they don't like about themselves before jumping into another serious relationship. Consider heading out on your own from time-to-time so that you can get comfortable being by yourself and start learning more about who you are as an individual before trying to find someone else so soon.

3. Don't put all your eggs in one basket

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from the past, it’s that you never know what can happen. Whether it's a relationship that doesn't work out or a job that you lose unexpectedly, there are many factors outside of your control when it comes to life. It's important to always have a back-up plan and keep your options open so that you're prepared for anything. This way, if you do end up single again, you'll have the tools and resources to find happiness on your own.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

There is no better feeling than being around positive people who support and encourage you in all aspects of your life. If there are certain friends in your life who tend to be negative or put down the things that make you happy, consider cutting them out of your life. There is nothing worse than surrounding yourself with people who try to bring you down all of the time - not only will this affect how much positivity and support they'll be able to give you in the future, but it'll also affect your happiness and well-being.

5. Don't rely on others for your happiness

This is something that I struggled with for a very long time in my life, as I always seemed to put my happiness in other people's hands when it came to relationships. This is a huge mistake, because it places all of the power in their hands and makes you vulnerable. Instead of relying on someone else for your own happiness, focus on yourself and finding ways to make yourself feel fulfilled. Once you're comfortable in your own skin, you'll be able to find someone who complements that person instead of trying to change who you are.

6. Find a hobby that makes you feel alive

One of the best things about hobbies is how beneficial they can be for your state of mind. When you're feeling down or stressed, taking some time to do something you enjoy can help elevate your mood and make you feel better. In addition to this, having a hobby gives you something else to focus on and enjoy when life gets difficult. I've found that when I'm going through a rough patch in my life, working on one of my hobbies helps me get my mind off of it. There's nothing better than being able to get away from all of your problems by doing something you love!

How to find love

The first step to finding love is being open to the possibility. Sometimes we just need a little push in the right direction to get us out there.

Next, make sure you're not in your head too much.  Many singles worry about how they look or that their date won't be interested in them because of who they are. It's important to stay positive and believe in yourself, as well as have confidence on your date.

Try not to compare yourself to others. Comparison might seem like an easy way of figuring out what you want in a partner, but it can also hold you back from being open-minded and accepting people for who they are, even if they don't match up with what you’re looking for 100%.

Lastly, take things slow and enjoy the moment. Dating should be enjoyable and fun! Just let go, be yourself, and have a good time. This will help you find someone who truly values you for all that you are.

Have a strong online presence

We've all seen those people who have a strong online presence - they're on social media every day, and they always seem to be in the know about things. Sometimes we envy them, but it's not just their social life that's so great - they also have a better chance at finding love.

A recent study found that those with the most Facebook friends had a 10% higher chance of getting married in the next year than those with the least amount of Facebook friends. So, if you want to find love, it pays to constantly be on social media and interact with people!

Another study found that those who tweeted about their relationship status had more followers than those who did not. So, if you post about your relationship often on Twitter or Instagram (or other platforms), you'll reap the benefits of more followers, which may lead to more dates in the future. 

There are plenty of ways for singles to have an online presence outside of social media as well - blogging is one way that many people increase their online visibility.

Put yourself out there

The first thing you need to do is start to put yourself out there. Too many people sit at home on their phones, expecting someone to come knocking on their door. The reality is that you have to go out and meet new people. You can do this through social media, through work, or even in settings where single people are likely to be found. If you like being around other singles and enjoy meeting new people, then a night of karaoke with your friends may be the perfect opportunity for you to take the next step towards finding a partner.

Don't settle for someone who doesn't make you happy

You should never settle for someone who doesn't make you happy. It's important to be with someone who you can make a future with, so don't waste your time on someone who isn't the one. You'll never be able to find out if the person is the one if you're not honest about your expectations and needs. This is a lot harder said than done, but it might save you a lot of time in the long run if you identify what you need and communicate that to potential partners.

Give it time

Don't be discouraged if you're struggling to find a partner. It's always good to keep in mind that it can take time. One of the best ways to meet someone is through friends. Whether you meet at a party or just start chatting online, connecting with people you already know is one way to start your search for a partner.

Find the right balance

Oftentimes, singles will put all their eggs in one basket. This can mean trying to find a partner that is just like you or someone that fits into your perfect idea of what a partner should be like. That can be a recipe for disaster. Instead, it's best to avoid this common pitfall by finding the right balance. You need to be open-minded and willing to try new things while not compromising on your core values.


If you are looking to find a partner, you want to start with a strong online presence. By being active on social media, you show prospective partners your personality and what you are like when you are at your best. It's important not to settle for someone who doesn't make you happy. If you're in the early stages of dating someone, it might take time to find the right balance and figure out if they are the right person for you.