What To Talk About With Your Boyfriend: 38 Interesting Topics to Discuss

March 17, 2022
Happy couple talking to each other

Your relationship is one of the most important things in your life-it should also be the most interesting. Here are stome topics to talk about with your boyfriend that will keep you both talking for years to come.

Why is it so important to talk?

Talking is a way to keep your relationship fresh and exciting. Plus, it's the best way to get to know your boyfriend better. It's also the best way to not only make him feel good but also make sure that he feels good about himself.

Do you want to get to know him better?

Yes, you do. And so does he. If you want to get to know him better, talk about the things that interest you. If he wants to get to know you better, talk about the things that interest him.

What are some interesting topics?

Here are some interesting topics that are sure to keep your relationship interesting:

  1. His childhood and his parents: It's significant for both of you to understand what kind of person he was as a child and how he grew up before he met you. What were his hobbies and interests? What did his parents do for a living? Did they work outside or stay at home? What did they think about your relationship or any other relationship? You may even want to find out what some of his friends thought about him or how they felt about their relationships with him!
  2. His interests and hobbies: There are many things that your boyfriend enjoys doing, and you may be surprised to find out what they are. You might have a hard time believing that he enjoys reading the Bible or listening to classical music! Don't be surprised if you learn that he plays the guitar or the piano or even sings in a choir at church. He may even surprise you by telling you that he's interested in computers and technology! What kind of music does he like? What kinds of movies does he watch? Does he like to play sports? What kinds of video games does he like? What kinds of books does he read? How often does he watch television? These are just some examples of questions you might want to ask him about his interests and hobbies.
  3. His friends: Most people have more than one friend and so do most couples. You need to understand who your boyfriend's friends are, and what kind of relationship he has with them.
  4. His goals: When your boyfriend was younger, he may have had a goal for his life. He might have wanted to be a firefighter or a doctor or a lawyer when he grew up. He might still have some goals in mind for his futureward you don't want to be surprised when he tells you that one of his goals is something different now!
  5. His family: Your boyfriend may have a lot of family members that you don't know about. If you want to learn more about them, you can ask your boyfriend questions about his family.
  6. His personality: As I mentioned above, both of you need to understand what kind of person your boyfriend is. Are there any parts of his personality that rub you the wrong way? Are there any parts that make him seem interesting or exciting or fun? Is there anything that makes him seem shy or nervous or uncertain? If so, how do you think he might handle this situation in the future?
  7. His dreams: Many people have dreams and most people have goals for their lives. If your boyfriend has dreams for himself, is he still working towards those goals now? What are his dreams for the future and how do they relate to your relationship in the future?
  8. His fears: Everyone has fears and every one of us will be afraid at some point in our lives. If your boyfriend has fears, what are they? What do you think he might be afraid of and how would you help him if he was afraid?
  9. His past: Many people have had experiences in the past that have shaped their current views about themselves and the world. How does your boyfriend see himself now, compared to how he saw himself when he was younger. How does this affect his feelings towards relationships and his life in general?
  10. His goals: What are your boyfriend's goals for his life and what kinds of things will help him reach those goals? What kind of person does he want to be, and how can you help him reach that goal?

38 examples topics to discuss with your boyfriend

  1. What is your favorite food and why?
  2. What was your favorite class in high school?
  3. What did you think of the movie?
  4. What do you like or dislike about being single?
  5. What do you hope to be doing in ten years?
  6. If either of you were stranded on a deserted island for the rest of your life, what would be your top three things to take?
  7. What was the last book you read?
  8. What do you want to do after college?
  9. What are your plans for this summer?
  10. If either of you were stranded on a deserted island and could bring one person with you, who would it be?
  11. What's your favorite movie?
  12. What was the most impressive thing someone did this week?
  13. If either of you were stranded on a deserted island with only one book, what would be your choice?
  14. Do you have any pets?
  15. What was the best concert you've been to recently?
  16. Describe your favorite restaurant/diner?
  17. If either of you were stranded on a deserted island with only one song, what would be the choice?
  18. What are some of the songs you like to listen to?
  19. What was the last movie you saw?
  20. What are some of your favorite TV Shows?
  21. If you could be anywhere right now, where would you be?
  22. Have you ever been skydiving/skydiving?
  23. Have you ever played any sports?
  24. What was your favorite subject at school?
  25. What was your favorite thing to do in high school?
  26. If you could be anywhere right now, where would you be?
  27. What is the best book you've ever read?
  28. What is the worst thing about having a girlfriend?
  29. What was the most embarrassing moment of your life?
  30. What makes you laugh the most?
  31. Have you ever been in a fight?
  32. What is your favorite type of food?
  33. If you could be anywhere right now, where would you be?
  34. Do you know how to ride a horse/pony?
  35. Do you play any musical instruments or sing?
  36. What is the best thing about being single/not having a girlfriend right now?
  37. Have you ever been to Las Vegas or any place like that?
  38. How many people have asked to go out with you in your entire life, and what was the outcome of those requests? (Mention them if they were declined)

How to keep the conversation going

1. Don't be afraid to ask questions - Men love to talk about themselves - and they love it even more if you are genuinely interested in what they have to say.

2. Listen to him - If you are not listening, then the conversation is not going anywhere.

3. Ask questions that require more than one-word answers - Questions like "How was your day?" or "What did you do today?" don't really require any thought or effort on his part, so he will probably just give one-word answers and then wait for you to talk again.

4. Don't put him on the spot with a question that he is not ready for or does not have an answer for yet - For example, don't ask him where he sees this relationship going if he has only been dating you for a month!

5. Have fun with it! - Some of the best conversations I have had with my guy friends have been ones where we were just joking around and having fun, even though we weren't saying anything very deep or meaningful.

5. Be yourself - Don't try to be a different person just because you are talking to him. If you like shopping, don't act as you hate it just because he doesn't like it. If he doesn't like shopping, then he probably won't want to go with you anyway.

6. Listen and pay attention - This is an important one! When we are talking to someone, we usually only hear about 30% of what they say, and we remember even less than that! That's why it's so critical to really listen when someone is talking to us, instead of thinking about what we are going to say next!

7. Look at him when you are talking - It makes the conversation more fun if you can look into each other's eyes while you talk! You will also be able to tell if he is interested in what you have to say or not by the expression on his face!

8. Ask questions about him - This one is very essential! You don't have to ask the same questions over and over again. Ask him about his life, his interests, and things that you don't know about him! This will make the conversation more interesting for both of you!

9. Compliment him - When you compliment a guy on something he does, it makes him feel good. It shows that you care about what he thinks. It also shows that you are interested in who he is as a person and not just what he looks like!

10. Be yourself - Even if there are things you like to do that he doesn't like or things you would rather do than go out with him, don't try to act differently just because he doesn't want to do it with you. That's not how relationships work, and it will only make the relationship worse in the long run if your true personalities conflict with each other!

11. Don't be clingy or needy - You should never be clingy or needy when you are in a relationship. You should do your own things and go out with friends, but if he asks you to do something, it is fine. Just make sure that you don't overdo it!

12. Be honest - If there are things that you have done that he doesn't like, be honest about them! He will appreciate it!

13. Be independent - This one is very important! If you are dependent on him for everything, then he will feel like he has to take care of you in every way, and that will never work out well in the end. It is much better to be independent and self-sufficient so that he cannot control or manipulate you in any way!

14. Don't get too attached to him - This one is very significant as well! You don't want to get so attached to him that it starts affecting your real-life relationships with other people or even your friends or family members!

15. Don't try to change him - If you think you can change him, then you are wrong! You should be happy with who he is and accept him for who he is!

16. Play hard to get - You don't want to play too hard to get because that will make him think of you as just some kind of trophy that he got! You need to play it cool and leave him guessing if he wants you or not!

17. Be honest about what you want in a relationship - If you know what kind of person you want in a relationship, then be honest about it and let him know what your expectations are! Don't lie about it because if it doesn't work out, then it is going to hurt both of your feelings!


It is important to make time for your significant other and discuss things that matter to you. You need to make sure that you are on the same wavelength and are both open-minded. You also need to make sure that you aren’t talking about the same thing over and over again.